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Premature ejaculation often happens when you are strongly aroused and you get very intense stimuli from the very beginning, which leads you straight to the peak of excitement.
Next time take it slow. Start from sensual foreplay. Take your time to undress each other. Enjoy unrushed affectionate foreplay for a while – it will extend your intercourse and won’t let you get too hot too quickly.
Sometimes men tend to focus too much on the penetrative sex, and that leads them to a quick completion.
Penetration is just a small part of sex – there is so much more to enjoy in sex than penetration. Don’t skip those things.
Try different types of sex. Experiment with a light petting at first – mutual masturbation, intimate Lingam massage or oral sex is a perfect switch betweet foreplay and sex.
When during sex you feel you’re almost coming, slow down the tempo and discrease the intensity. Move a bit slower, don’t go as deep or ask your partner to make the blowjob / handjob / riding more gently.
Don’t be afraid to make a little break during sex when you feel it’s getting to hot. Lay down, cuddle and kiss. Let yourself rest and cool down a bit.
If you’re in a comfortable position to do that, you can even stay inside your partner without moving and just cuddle like that for a while. It’s such an intimate thing to do and it’s a good way to completely slow down and stay still for a moment.
When you’re having oral sex or handjob / fingering, take turns instead of doing 69 or other positions of that type.
This way you will get a chance to calm down between turns and you won’t be getting the constant double stimulation, which could be too much.
When you feel an intense wave of pleasure, try to cool your mind. Mental arousal is a big part of excitement in sex and often it’s what makes men come “too quickly”. When you feel an extreme arousal, don’t intensify it with kinky fantasies.
Instead, close your eyes, calm your thoughts and take a deep breath. You’d be surprised how much a calm breath can do!
Redirect your focus from your penis to other parts of your body and feel how you’re cooling down.
If there is a particular position or activity in sex that is very arousing for you (or one that usually makes you “lose control”), leave it to the end. Once you’ve did everything you wanted and you’re ready to come, go for your golden position and lose yourself in it. You don’t need to control yourself anymore – you can finally let it go and let yourself come.
The best thing is that after edging yourself for a while (getting aroused and calming down, not letting yourself come), the orgasm is incredibly intense. So it’s so worth putting the effort and control yourself – just to get an even more intense orgasm at the end. You can read more about edging in tis post:
Edging – everything you need to know.
If you’d like to try those techniques with a professional escort, get familiar with my services and book a meetig with me. I’m sure you will love the edging and intimacy with me…
I’m an independent, professional masseuse based in Warsaw, Poland. On my blog, I write about subjects related to my work: erotic massage, sensuality & intimacy. You can also find here interesting posts for massage clients and helpful tips for gentlemen planning to book an erotic massage in Warsaw.
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